Not in so many words but she knows when she's needed.
A. I did not ask him in so many words.
In just a few words, you said the most important things.
She heard more than he was ready to know and to hear in his own words.
Maybe not in my words, but they mean the same thing.
Most of the story he told us in his own words, you know.
Or maybe she saw in my words the same thing you did.
"I want you to tell me in your own words what happened tonight."
An answer came, not in words but as a feeling.
In other words, be sure not to give the money to anyone but us.